The girl I crushed on (some advice would be good ^^)

Spear23 SG

Well, i am gonna make it short. I am a secondary four student- Graduating. I know it's the O's period. But let me get this off my chest.Like the title says, there's this girl i crushed on for 4 years. She knows of my existence yet we merely chatted online. When we meet, we will be like sort of awkward.Maybe because i confessed to her on facebook a year ago-- and got rejected (I know this sucks, but i can't bring myself to do it face to face.) We were in the same class in the lower secondary, and same mother tongue class for sec3 and 4. To sum it all, i would like to approach her after the O's. Anyone got any ideas? Or should i let her go instead? -- I have never been in a relationship before btw. (That sucks again i know )

gLc SG

you crushed her for 4 years... she must be real skinny by now.

Spear23 SG

Maybe ? haha :D

TastyCaramel SG

Ok so I see what is your problem now. You have been chasing this girl for like 4 years already. But you must understand, she probably already have a bf now and ya, it's already too late. I understand despite not being in a bgr, it's hard to confess in case it may backfire.

So anyways you should have taken step-by-step and not just go all out without even entering the ''best friends'' zone. Because when you confessed and unfortunately got rejected, the friendship between you two already drop.

In contrast, if you still like her, do the step-by-step method and TML. Remember, never just ''chiong'' unless you very sure can get accepted.

TastyCaramel SG

Anyway, it should be ''The girl I had a crush on for 4 years'' not ''The girl I crushed on''. Funny and misleading title lol

Spear23 SG

I got it. She doesn't have a bf though. Thanks for correcting me btw :)

MIMI the Garfield cat SG

what type of ‘O” are you referring to?

Spear23 SG

O levels

MIMI the Garfield cat SG

You will never know the answer until you meet her

troublemaker2005 SG

hmm, can see your pic and her pic. i go ask deities see your compatible or not first.

mr music SG

I think you should let go of her because both of you are still young and there are plently of opportunities to meet new gals in JC or poly

doraemon1234 SG

you crushed her for 4 years... she must be real skinny by now.

haha

TastyCaramel SG

I think you should let go of her because both of you are still young and there are plently of opportunities to meet new gals in JC or poly

True true since it been 4 years liao

jojobeach SG

Ok. So u confessed before and she didn't take up ur offer.

well dude.. what are u hoping for after o level.

are u hoping she will change her mind and take up your offer next time ?

if she wasn't interested before, why would she be interested in you now ?

have u grown taller ? Smarter or wealthier ? If nothing about u hav changed... Why should she change her mind about u ?

Of cors, I am not saying you shouldn't try again... You should try and see if she did change her mind about u...but if she rejects you again... Don't cry like a baby .just accept it , thank her for being honest and Move On !

After you've done what u needed to do to convince yourself she is really not interested.., you won't regret not trying. That's the best thing u have done for yourself.

newgal SG

She knows of my existence yet we merely chatted online.)

How can you like somebody without seeing her in person?

coffeebreak SG

why do u need to confess anything to her now???

just ask her out on a date la... one-to-one date or group outing is also ok... just ask her out first, and then see how your friendship develop or don't develop...

it is only when you guys have gone out together, spend sometime together, then you gauge your own chances and you can confess... get the sequence right TS

Spear23 SG

just ask her out on a date la... one-to-one date or group outing is also ok... just ask her out first, and then see how your friendship develop or don't develop...

it is only when you guys have gone out together, spend sometime together, then you gauge your own chances and you can confess... get the sequence right TS

Hah! Thanks a lot. I got it. I made a huge blunder huh? haha... lll

Spear23 SG

How can you like somebody without seeing her in person?

We did interact. Just that i don't dare to talk so much in front of her compared to when we are on social platform. lol

speakoutfor SG

She rejected you before, so unless some gamma ray spider bit you, and you start developing super human strengith, leaping around and screaming for Mary Jane Mary Jane, very doubt that this girl is going to re-evaluate her rejection of you.

There are a lot of fishes in the sea, why you still got to stick with the likes of her? Are there any other girls at your school you can try to develop a liking to?

The world works like this,, am very sure somebody out tehre doesn't match you, vice versa but there are other girls who match you to. So you cannot just focus on this one girl, you are wasting your time.

Just like a job interview, you send out 20 resumes. Only 8 companies respond for interview,a nd then out of that 8 interviews, you only succeed in getting 3 solid offers. It is highly unlikely that the company that you dearly want to work for, already rejected your application, will accept it after you sent it a second time. So move on to other applications. Same goes for finding relationships.

Having said this, you can still be a friend to her but don't put so much hope into it.